Post by AJ the Ass Slayer on Jun 26, 2008 19:25:46 GMT 7
I wrote this essay for English class. This is actually homework.XD Uh...I'm gonna post it anyway. Perhaps, you guys have opinions of your own (which I'm very open to hear).
Well...uh...my essay.
Based on what I’ve read and experienced, the communication styles of men and women quite contrast each other. Women like to talk. Women like to use words to express their feelings and to be able to establish closeness. Men, however, talk to negotiate their social status. They talk to be able to keep independence and to seem like stronger characters. They use words to keep the other boys from pushing them around.
Women seem to naturally want to talk more. Women are very open. They like to talk about everything. Women like to share their problems with men (I could be talking about boyfriends or those guy best friends that most women have) and complain. Perhaps not all girls/women are like this, but I know a lot of women who are like this. Even I am guilty of that! So, women go on and complain to men. Men react to “problem sharing” by giving solutions. Now, to men, it would be the ideal thing to say. But what women really want is for men to sympathize and try to console them. Men don’t understand that complaining is a ritual for women. Some times, men’s solutions to women’s problems could even be offending. Things just get worse, but they men think they’re being supportive. Women also wish that men would talk about their problems too. See, I dealt with this a lot with my boyfriend. Whenever he was upset about something, he would never tell me why. I’d have to guess or try to figure it out on my own. It’s very frustrating. Because he didn’t like talking about his problems, I’d be paranoid. I’d think that perhaps I did something wrong. Or perhaps, it could’ve been something else. But if it was me, how was I to learn of my mistake? He would not talk. But, after reading articles to help me with this homework, I learned that most guys are just like that. It’s not in their nature to be more vocal.
Miscommunication is bound to happen between both sexes. Because men don’t talk as much, women tend to feel like they’re being pushed away. They tend to feel like men are being cold. But the truth is that men simply don’t talk the way women want them to. Women want them to talk to them intimately, but men mostly talk for social status. It’s rare to find a man who is willingly vocal.
But how will miscommunication end if there is no communication at all? I know it’s typical of me to say this, because I am a young lady, but, I believe that for miscommunication to end, men need to talk too. If not so much, at least to explain that it’s just not in their nature to talk so much. Wouldn’t it be easier for men to be understood if they expressed themselves a little more? Lack of words can easily be interpreted as hidden anger, even when it is not. That is how squabbles begin. Also, women should perhaps learn that men are trying to understand us too. They even try to give us solutions to our problems! That shows their effort. I think both sexes should make some compromises with the way they communicate. Perhaps if we compromise and learn more about the opposite sex, then we wouldn’t have to fight so much. We should all just be a little more patient with each other.
Well...uh...my essay.
The Communication Styles of Men and Women
Submitted by: Angela J. Escudero
Submitted by: Angela J. Escudero
Based on what I’ve read and experienced, the communication styles of men and women quite contrast each other. Women like to talk. Women like to use words to express their feelings and to be able to establish closeness. Men, however, talk to negotiate their social status. They talk to be able to keep independence and to seem like stronger characters. They use words to keep the other boys from pushing them around.
Women seem to naturally want to talk more. Women are very open. They like to talk about everything. Women like to share their problems with men (I could be talking about boyfriends or those guy best friends that most women have) and complain. Perhaps not all girls/women are like this, but I know a lot of women who are like this. Even I am guilty of that! So, women go on and complain to men. Men react to “problem sharing” by giving solutions. Now, to men, it would be the ideal thing to say. But what women really want is for men to sympathize and try to console them. Men don’t understand that complaining is a ritual for women. Some times, men’s solutions to women’s problems could even be offending. Things just get worse, but they men think they’re being supportive. Women also wish that men would talk about their problems too. See, I dealt with this a lot with my boyfriend. Whenever he was upset about something, he would never tell me why. I’d have to guess or try to figure it out on my own. It’s very frustrating. Because he didn’t like talking about his problems, I’d be paranoid. I’d think that perhaps I did something wrong. Or perhaps, it could’ve been something else. But if it was me, how was I to learn of my mistake? He would not talk. But, after reading articles to help me with this homework, I learned that most guys are just like that. It’s not in their nature to be more vocal.
Miscommunication is bound to happen between both sexes. Because men don’t talk as much, women tend to feel like they’re being pushed away. They tend to feel like men are being cold. But the truth is that men simply don’t talk the way women want them to. Women want them to talk to them intimately, but men mostly talk for social status. It’s rare to find a man who is willingly vocal.
But how will miscommunication end if there is no communication at all? I know it’s typical of me to say this, because I am a young lady, but, I believe that for miscommunication to end, men need to talk too. If not so much, at least to explain that it’s just not in their nature to talk so much. Wouldn’t it be easier for men to be understood if they expressed themselves a little more? Lack of words can easily be interpreted as hidden anger, even when it is not. That is how squabbles begin. Also, women should perhaps learn that men are trying to understand us too. They even try to give us solutions to our problems! That shows their effort. I think both sexes should make some compromises with the way they communicate. Perhaps if we compromise and learn more about the opposite sex, then we wouldn’t have to fight so much. We should all just be a little more patient with each other.
