TorN BetWeeN Two EX- LuvErs!

[Shisame]

I have a best friend named Liezel. She has a boyfriend named Ken. Kuya Ken is a perfect gentleman and a very good friend of ours. At the first few chapters of their story, Liezel always says she loves Ken so much as much as Ken does and that she was willing to do anything to keep their love last. But as Bad faith struck, their relationship as lovers had broke up a month before their first anniversary.

The Conflict:

Suddenly one day, Liezel just woke up claiming that she doesn't love Ken anymore. She had gone bored of their relationship and that she unknowingly lost her love for the man in no certain valuable reason. Our friend, Alex, who was Kuya Ken's workmate had told me after the break up, ken had messed up and lost his will to work anymore. That was the time I learn he was fully obsessed to my best friend. he came to me. Texting and calling me often asking for help and assistance for the "reconciliation" regarding Liezel.
Kuya Ken is such a good man. I felt pithiness upon him and in some way, I felt kind of annoyed to my best friend for what she had done that is just so unfair.
Liezel admitted she got a new boyfriend. But ken can't accept it and still was running for her. He's hopeless. He's going crazy to dare knock off the other guy!

>>>>>>>>>>>>I was torn between two ex-lovers!<<<<<<<<<<<

Ken wants to get back my best friends love no matter what and he was pleading for my help. On the other hand, Liezel wants my help to get rid of her ex-boyfriend.
Ken trusted me a lot. He was my great friend.
Liezel trust me more. She was one of my best friend.
They are both expecting this big helping hand from me!

I honestly hate it the way they both are forcing me to act between them...

What do you think guys?...

Well, perhaps you got good advice to whom I must be with...The confusion annoys me until now... It's really annoying.

[chuna]

Well, first of all it's not really your problem. Sila na man yung mag-ex, sila mag-usap. And yeah, that would piss me off too.

I'd say you tell them they talk to each other since sila naman yung may problema, pero, that might be awkward. What have you tried doing?

[Shisame]

well, now? It became my problem too. I tried listening to both side. have my outmost patience and the widest understanding I could ever render. NO. Liezel doesnt want to talk to his ex anymore. Ken is too "makulit" tlga... as in. I even tried setting a date. but someone evil had informed my plans against her will. They are both my great friend. i knew them , I knew their story well. and it happens that I am their "closest" buddy. oh, how great kind of friend I am. nyah!

hindi ko lang tlg alam kung kanino kakampi. I want to be nuetral as far as I can. but it seems imposible. grrr..... I talked to ken. Saying my best friend has a new boyfriend now and she's happy. (like i was trying to say "condolence" to him. ) And did said He must start moving on. But he insisted NO> IM GOING TO KILL THAT FUCKSHIT MAN! Im afraid of his obssesion. on the other hand? my best friend said HE'S CRAZY! LET HIM KNOW I HATE HIM AND SAY GET LOST.

omg....
last day, I woke up seeing my cellphone loaded with 25 unread forwarded messenges from both of them. Now Im starting to hate them both.

see? like a drama shown on television.

as early as 9am now, Ken phoned me. He's again pleading for help.
I said " stop it Kuya ken. There's no possible way to get her back. just Accept it! I am your friend I did everything possible and take it from me, drop it now. God, I cant afford loosing my good mood again because of you guys this time, please. "

==. well, I guess I must be on my bestfriend side.....

[♥ [ Lip Gloss ] ♥]

I think that's the best you can do. It is their problems, so they sort it out. You shouldn't feel bad about being in the middle, even though it sucks. xD

But then again, he should respect your best friend's wishes. o.o perhaps it's good for them not to see each other until everything settles down, or somethin?

[Blessed Devil]

You want to know what I'd do to those two if I were you? I'd tell Ken to can it because Liezel doesn't want him anymore. And I'll tell Liezel to get Ken to stop bothering the fuck out of me.

[Shisame]

I feel Ken is really messing up. like merely lost his mind. I dunno why he had this strong faith and belief that Liezel was just confused this time and she didn't mean to do it.that she will come back again to him. (what? by getting a new instant boyfriend? she did not mean it???) He's a good man before. But he was a fool right now. I hate the way he let himself lost the greatness he had before. and the way he's hurting himself. i'd already talked to Liezel and clear up that im not to her side completely. The damage she had done, though she's my bestfriend, is seriously bad and I wont spoil her.

it's freaking me out. Ken still won't stop. To hell be the glory!

[Blessed Devil]

Oh screw what I said. Tell them to talk.

[AJ the Ass Slayer]

Okay. One rule.

Hoes before bros.

But honestly, you should get them both to talk. Your friend should give Ken closure. It should stop when she asks him too. I mean, she's already with someone else. He should get over her.

[parksoobyung]

It's best to ignore them because either side you are, the other will think you're not a good friend. It's good to take the path of least resistance.

[Shisame]

Liezel did anything possible to convinced Ken about what must he accept. But I guess he's out of his mind to still believe in his love for my best friend. And it's not that simple to just ignore them.... phone calls as early as 8 or 9am? bunch of forwarded messages from both of them in my cellphone every morning as I wake up? Liezel even runs to my place like "wow. am I your bodyguard?!"

The Latest:

Liezel's new boyfriend got out of the country to pursue his job as a young seaman only last week. Though he doesn't want to leave my best friend at this stage, professionally , he must because of his contract. And my God! I cant believe how he made me promised that I would take good care and guard my PASAWAY best friend specially from my other great friend (though not as great as before) and her ex-lover, Ken. At least Liezel was aware how I felt really really upset making me like her armor to her own flithy faults!

She was afraid that Ken would do such worst thing. Ken knows where she lives and work. Kuya Ken wants her schedule right from me but of course I simply resist. We are both worried of how far can he go by his bad obssesion. Though I know Kuya Ken is a real good man, seeing what he is now makes me get bothered. I did never took this problem seriously before. I thought it was only a common ex-lover fight and would easily past away as they settled to their own paths. But now with this little commotion including me? I think it's really considerable.

I had then another personal talk to Kuya Ken last day. I am her ex-girlfriend's bestfriend. And im not looking forward to him done such violent move either verbal or physical. That Im not a fool just to stand here and watch my best friend at worst because of him. He promised me he won't hurt Liezel. And he wont give me reasons to hate him (he's actually numb not to feel Im starting to...) --.

I'd tried your advices, guys. Thanks for the respone and sympathy. *bows*

All the talks and all the pleading I had are enough for now. I know he would still not stop. But im holding on his vow not to hurt my best friend or else i'll then be against our friendship. Im on my way. still. to convince and cast away the stubborness out of him. He's still my friend. I never wish for both of them to get hurt.

now i learn......


NOTE:

THE MOST HARD-HEADED PERSON IN THIS WHOLE WIDE WORLD ARE THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE CRAZY IN LOVE! WHATEVER YOU TELL THEM, THEY JUST CRAZILY SMILE AND WON'T LISTEN. OMG!

aja!

[chuna]

Jul 8, 2008 21:51:52 GMT 7 AJ the Ass Slayer said:

Hoes before bros.

This has been a thing with me and my friends but ours was 'Bros before hoes'...and we were like "But wait, we're girls so we're hoes. OH NO D:" Haha. Anyway.

And yes, the deeper you fall the harder your head is. ... Or something. I'd say you STILL let them settle it. Hindi naman ikaw yung in-love eh ... o baka naman ... ikaw nga. AY. jooooke
And don't force them to talk if they don't want to. Kasi baka magkagulo lang ulit. Tell them you're not a bridge. Friend ka nila, hindi messenger. Don't let them force you to take sides. Make your own. ((:

[J e e c o .]

Sometimes it best to leave things the way it is. It's their lives, their problems. So why stress out because of it?

Okay, since because you're a good friend and all...and honestly I might have done the same thing in your position in the middle. But still.

And yes, the deeper you fall the harder your head is. ... Or something. I'd say you STILL let them settle it. Hindi naman ikaw yung in-love eh ... o baka naman ... ikaw nga. AY. jooooke
And don't force them to talk if they don't want to. Kasi baka magkagulo lang ulit. Tell them you're not a bridge. Friend ka nila, hindi messenger. Don't let them force you to take sides. Make your own. ((:

I agree. I mean, somehow people in the middle always complicates things. In my opinion. YOU HAVE TO TAKE YOUR OWN SIDE. Screw love and its hindrances, darn it. Maybe for once I'd find it cute. But Ken is starting to become scary. Beyond scary, even. Why not take a stand? Summon them both in a place and tell them, head-on, that you are not enjoying this one bit. Seriously. If you're their good friend, they'd understand and SHUT THE FUCK UP.

That's what I did.

[Shisame]

Never render any commitment unless you both decided to settle down. trust and Hope are both crucial to a relationship.

OMG. now Im talking of C-O-M-M-I-T-M-E-N-T.